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(I generally answer non-anon asks privately but wanted to post this because I think it’s really important so I hope that’s okay!)
Now, I’m glad you bring this up because I have seen nothing about it on my dash since the album came out, and thus haven’t really gone out of my way to comment on it since the whole thing is confusing and upsetting and I still don’t exactly know what to make of it. That said, it is something that has really bothered me since I first heard the song, and there’s just no denying how deeply problematic and unbelievably insensitive the reference is.
I’m Ike Turner, turn up, baby no I don’t play
Now eat the cake, Anna Mae
Said, “Eat the cake, Anna Mae!”
For anyone who doesn’t know, this lyric from Jay’s verse in “Drunk In Love” references a scene from What’s Love Got to Do with It (the 1993 Tina Turner biopic) in which Ike Turner, Tina’s husband and known abuser, shoves cake down her throat and then hits her friend Jackie when she tells him to leave Tina (real name: Anna Mae) alone. If you haven’t seen the movie - and are somehow unfamiliar with the Ike/Tina story - his violent behavior only escalates from there; he physically abuses Tina throughout their marriage and basically makes her life a living hell until she finally works up the courage to leave him for good. (Side note: it’s an incredibly powerful film and tbh I really recommend it.) Anyway, it’s bad enough that Jay would ever compare himself to Ike Turner in the first place, but to deliver “Eat the cake, Anna Mae!” like it’s some kind of punchline is completely inexcusable. He has, deservedly, been accused of making a mockery of domestic violence and I agree 100% with those who have pointed out that it is not only incredibly insulting to survivors of abuse, but that it sends a dangerous message to everyone about the severity of this very real issue.